Suki Xiao Q&A: The Secret to Behavioural Change

Q&A with Suki Xiao after her presentation, The Secret to Behavioural Change, from the Finding Ada Conference 2020.
Synopsis
A lot of us think behavioural change is about changing our behaviours without realising the need to change ourselves. In this talk, Suki will distill the most fundamental information about habit formation. She will share her top tips for creating lasting change through a personal story of how she tamed her harsh self-critic.
Links and info
Course: https://asyou.org/redefinenow
Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear
Book: Tiny Habits by B.J. Fogg
About Suki
Previously an Agile Coach at Xero, Suki Xiao is a certified Life and Professional Coach specialised in helping ambitious professionals to redefine their grind. Suki has years of experience facilitating and coaching teams. She has mentored multiple people in the tech industry and coached company leaders to become better coaches. Her passion for helping people live more meaningfully started young when ...

 

 

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Suki Xiao: The Secret to Behavioural Change

Suki Xiao's presentation from the Finding Ada Conference 2020.
Synopsis
A lot of us think behavioural change is about changing our behaviours without realising the need to change ourselves. In this talk, Suki will distill the most fundamental information about habit formation. She will share her top tips for creating lasting change through a personal story of how she tamed her harsh self-critic.
About Suki
Previously an Agile Coach at Xero, Suki Xiao is a certified Life and Professional Coach specialised in helping ambitious professionals to redefine their grind. Suki has years of experience facilitating and coaching teams. She has mentored multiple people in the tech industry and coached company leaders to become better coaches. Her passion for helping people live more meaningfully started young when she was a voluntary counsellor at Youthline and now she has started her own coaching business.

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Conquer your procrastination now!

Procrastination is the enemy of productivity, racking up costs in terms of time, money and even happiness. The good news is, there are ways to manage it and get back on track.

The Greek poet Hesiod wrote “Do not put your work off till tomorrow and the day after; for a sluggish worker does not fill his barn”. That was around two and half thousand years ago, long before the invention of the internet, social media and a hundred other distractions.

These days, approximately one in five adults and half of students are procrastinators. Defined as the voluntary delay of work or activity despite a negative outcome, procrastination costs the average British person 24 days a year.
Is procrastination really a problem?
It would be reassuring to hear ‘no’, but the answer’s a fairly emphatic ‘yes’. While some studies have found procrastination increases creativity or overall productiveness, most find it has a negative impact overall. Alongside wasting considerable amounts of our limited time...

 

 

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Who’s asking the questions?

How can it be so difficult to ask a question? And why are men almost twice as likely to do it than women?

It’s the end of a research talk. You are easily the second most qualified person in the room after the speaker. A question comes readily to mind. And yet… somehow… your arm remains by your side. Before you know it, six men have asked 'questions' that demonstrate either that they weren’t listening or want to talk about their own, not necessarily relevant, research. Afterwards you berate yourself for yet again not raising your hand. How can it be this hard?

The fear does not necessarily diminish with age or seniority. In April 2014 I decided to go for it at a climate change meeting. As I raised my hand, my heart pounded. I mumbled my question into the microphone, having to restart at least once. To this day I can remember neither the question I asked nor the answer, only the panic and flight-response to the adrenalin surge. I was not an early career researcher. I had been a cli...

 

 

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The deep roots of impostor syndrome

Impostor syndrome is widespread amongst women and can have a negative effect on their careers. Where does it start, and what can we do about it?

"I don’t belong here. I'm a fraud. I’ve tricked my way into my position, and it’s only a matter of time before someone finds me out."

Unless by some small chance you happen to be a professional con artist, the above is likely not true. But those kinds of thoughts will strike a chord with around seven out of ten people reading this.

“With every good grade I was afraid that I didn't deserve it, and had somehow fooled the examiners,” said Daniela, a physics PhD at the University of Sussex, who first experienced anxiety during her bachelor’s degree. It only intensified during her master’s.

“The feeling of not being good enough, not living up to the expectations and having managed to trick my application committee for the PhD into believing I was good enough was overwhelming. I'm a really self-critical person, and with those feelings on...

 

 

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